Connection is key to a contented life

Jan Normanton • August 31, 2025

Connection to self, others, life itself offers safety and can provide the cornerstone of contentment and love


Whilst disconnection to self, others, life poses threat and so can cause the opposites – unhappiness and fear

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If you are stressed, consider somatic massage or somatic coaching and know that your body has a whole set of inbuilt ways to help you manage your inner states.

I invite you to consider when you feel your happiest and I guarantee it will be when you feel connected with yourself, connected with your loved ones, connected with the Universe.


And conversely when do you feel most unhappy? I am sure that will be when you feel disconnected from yourself, estranged from loved ones and feeling in a sense of loss from your purpose, from your place, from meaning making of your place in the Universe.


So when you feel that disconnection, we are a few breaths away from feeling connected again. I guarantee it’ll be when you’ve disappeared into your head, got distracted, discombobulated and stressed.


When we’re not connected with ourselves and with others - we’re animals at the end of the day - we can feel disconnected and stress; we move into our heads, we get distracted, we feel less than as a human being, and therefore our brains go offline and we can feel really unhappy in those states.


And yet if we simply drop back into our bodies, remember who we are, take some breaths, reconnect with ourselves, we can find ourselves again. I guarantee that any sense of unhappiness can be because we feel disconnected from ourselves, we lose a sense of self who we are, what we’re about, why we’re here, and this can create confusion, fear and a sense of loss.


Yet with a few breaths again, coming back to the body we can feel online again with our bodies, we can create that coherence between our minds and our body, we can create that sense of safety within, and that sense of connection with ourselves and others and we can quickly come back online and feel contented, at peace and settled within ourselves.


It doesn’t take much to be happy and I do believe the key to happiness is maintaining this sense of connection which generates a sense of safety which we need, especially in this day and age of distraction, discombobulation, of chaos going on out there.


So I invite you always to come back to the body, find that sense of self - that’s where our power lies, that’s where our safety lies and that’s ultimately where our happiness is generated from.

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