How we relate to ourselves predicates the quality of our lives

Jan Normanton • November 14, 2024

How is your relationship with yourself, your true self? How does it feel to be inside of you? How are your daily experiences, from the moment you wake up to the moment you go to sleep? 

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If you are stressed, consider somatic massage or somatic coaching and know that your body has a whole set of inbuilt ways to help you manage your inner states.

Do you nourish, nurture, cultivate a beautiful rich, internal environment for yourself?

 

Or do you find yourself pushing yourself, with a strong inner critic that feels you never do enough, never have enough; that you have to strive, to achieve and to be outcome focused and generate outputs continually?


Do you have an internal beautiful sense of flow, sense of connection and inner harmony, so that your mind, body, spirit, your energies all align and that you live a beautiful internal life?


The quality of our internal lives, how we speak to ourselves, how we care for ourselves, is crucial; especially in this day and age where we have extraordinary demands placed upon us, where our attention is buffeted all over the place, where we are wrenched out of ourselves continually with constant distraction and constant items on the to do list, where we are available 24/7 and we have exposure to social media 24/7.


So how is your internal environment? How is your relationship with yourself? Do you put yourself first, care for yourself as you would a little child?



Or do you find that there is a lacking within, that there’s an angry inner self, there’s a demanding inner self that expects lots from yourself; and that you sense you’re on the never never, that you never quite arrive, that you are never quite the good enough person that you strive to be, that it’s never enough whatever you seem to do.


So I invite you to have a think about how you operate within. Are you nurturing, nourishing, watering, feeding your soul, your body, your mind? Or is it a bit of a desert in there? Do you abandon yourself, are you absent from yourself?


And I ask this question because the quality of our internal environment is key and crucial to a happy, fulfilled, sustainable, healthy life.


So how is your internal environment? Do you show up for yourself or do you self abandon?

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