Who is driving the bus of your life - your inner parent or your inner critic?

If you tick all the boxes of self care and yet still feel off, check out your inner critic who may be driving your bus

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Perhaps you tick all the boxes of self care.

Your nutrition is right, you are hydrated, doing lots of sports or movement, you take care of yourself as best as possible, you take the supplements … and still something might feel a bit off.

Perhaps it’s stress levels, so you manage and curtail your stress levels; you support yourself as best as possible and still you might feel tired, overwhelmed and stressed.

I do wonder about your self talk.

Our self-talk can be so mean, demanding, excessive;  feeling:

·      we need to meet and match societal norms

·      we might be off when we compare ourselves unfavourably to others on social media

·      whatever we do is never enough.

And so we beat up ourselves and we have this inner dialogue that is mean spirited, demanding, quite excessive.

We might even flagellate ourselves, beat ourselves to the point of making ourselves unwell, making ourselves tired, depriving ourselves of what we really need within.

Which is a beautiful, kind, warm, compassionate, considerate parent that we may not have got in childhood, and so we may not be used to dealing with ourselves in that way.

So, whatever happened to us in childhood, the invitation as an adult is to reparent ourselves, to tend to ourselves like that little child, and to nourish and nurture ourselves mentally, emotionally as well as physically, energetically, spiritually.

And so to tend to our inner thoughts and make sure that those are really curating and cultivating an inner world that is calming, that is soothing, that is supportive of everything we wish to do in life.