Can you let your inner child come out to play?!

Jan Normanton • January 11, 2025

Play is an integral part of our healing journey – restoring our inner spirit and enabling us to reclaim our joy 

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If you are stressed, consider somatic massage or somatic coaching and know that your body has a whole set of inbuilt ways to help you manage your inner states.

I had a couple of client cancellations last minute today due to illness and I thought what a gift it was for me, to get out into nature, my favourite place and to play, to come out and play in this winter wonderland!


Play is such an integral part of healing.


Play involves safety, feeling confident, feeling secure and safe enough in and of ourselves.


Play involves learning how to play, and if we weren’t allowed that in childhood, then it can feel quite difficult as adults to know how to play. If we were for instance the parentified child where we had so much to pay attention to, where we had to step up and be perhaps mum or dad when we were little children, we may not have learned how to play really well.



However in our adulthood on our healing journey we get to play again. And play signifies significant healing. It signifies trust in ourselves, trust in the universe, trust in others. It signifies that confidence that can build and that ability to drop into the present tense, be present, be mindful and not be watchful, not be in that functional freeze where we’re anticipating danger all around us and where we’re going about our business perhaps in a controlling manner.


So if we can start to play it’s a really good sign,  and so I invite you to think about how you might play!


I love playing in nature, getting out into the woods, getting out into the fields and roaming around, feeling quite liberated, free, expansive. I love to get creative and do my painting and explore other ways of playing and dropping into my child states, bringing forth my inner child who in childhood never really got to play.


So I invite you to think how you can bring forth your inner child if you feel safe enough to do so.

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