Dont let self development become another hard task master

Jan Normanton • September 9, 2024

Whilst self development is laudible, it can quickly become yet another item on the already long to do list and weigh heavy and become yet another source of self flagellation

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Dont let self development become another hard task master - embodied therapies

Try not to let self development become yet another stick with which to beat yourself up.


There's always going to be another podcast, another book, another course, another guru… Instead come back to what is true for you, what brings you joy, what motivates you, what makes you feel alive and embodied.


For me, getting out in nature enables me to drop in and get grounded. To come back to myself and realise what's really important to me, which is being embodied, feeling nourished and nurtured.


This keeps me away from that dreaded monkey mind which really discombobulates me, confuses me and gives me brain fog.


Avoid the hamster wheel of self development and self flagellation! We can end up in the never never land – of never arriving, of never feeling good enough. Instead, how about we practice self acceptance and make this a big part of our self development project. Choosing to do more of what we love. Surely this is the ticket, the golden ticket and ultimate purpose of all self development. 

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