VIDEO: How we can abandon ourselves physically

Jan Normanton • August 28, 2023

We can abandon ourselves physically and we can literally leave our bodies and live in the head. We can feel cut off from the neck down and may not have a good, healthy relationship with our body.


Our bodies may have been unsafe in childhood, and may have not been the best place to inhabit so to speak, for all kinds of reasons.   


What can happen later in life is that we essentially deny our bodies in a number of ways.


We may either overeat and stuff our bodies and fill our bodies with stuff; or we may undereat, deprive our bodies of the nourishment and nurturance that we need; we may indulge in drugs, alcohol, forms of escapism to deny our bodies, to ignore our bodies and treat them badly.


We may avoid hydrating ourselves and moving as much as what feels right for ourselves.


And so in many ways, we can deny our bodies, we can treat our bodies badly and this can be a subtle form of self abandonment. 

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